Sexual Intimacy is possible only when partners feel that there are no secrets between them. And at the same time, each one has been honest in sharing all the necessary feelings and experiences necessary for building relationship.
After sharing comes unconditional acceptance.
Sexual intimacy can be achieved or the strained relationship can be restored almost instantly, by simply accepting your partner unconditionally for what they are and by communicating this acceptance.
Accepting your partner unconditionally helps your partner to accept you unconditionally. Being loyal, loving and supportive is ‘hygiene factor’ which is unsaid part of agreement in married life.
(Hygiene factor means minimum expected which may not get appreciated)
For sexual intimacy both have to be comfortable in sharing openly about themselves, which is possible only with honest self-disclosure.
The more you tell about yourself and more your partner accepts for what you say; more you feel like sharing and more you will come closer as a couple
One can be selective in telling. It is your choice not to share things which are insignificant in today’s context or things likely to create unnecessary anxiety in the partner.
But, more you share information about your family, your experiences, your innermost feelings, sexuality and secrets; more you feel comfortable with your partner.
Frank communication from one partner encourages the other to share their feelings, which culminates into acceptance to each other.
Problems in communication arise when one partner does not accept or agree to what the other partner says or believes. Hence, it is better to get as much clear picture about each other without any emotional involvement before marriage
Sharing inner sexual feelings not only cultivates acceptance but also develops trust and intimacy between couple even faster. This intimacy results into dependability, loyalty essential for Long-Term Relationship.
Couples with problems in ‘sexual communication’ have problem in intimacy which results in sexual dissatisfaction.
It is not only what we say matters, but also how, why, when, where and to whom we say matters.
Small casual differences when overlooked gradually become part of daily life. Couples rarely notice how these differences lead to ‘non-acceptance’ even in bed.
Saying ‘what you think’, acting rude, hostile, or taking your spouse for granted has harmful effects on relationship. This results gradually in creating distance between the couple.
Everyone wants to be liked for who they are and as they are or as they were at the beginning of the relationship.
In the beginning of relationship, when the love is blind, both focused only on positive aspect and appreciated each other without finding any fault. As they move ahead, and the differences and disagreements begin. Focus now comes on shortcomings and problems.
Secret of maintaining intimacy is in always thinking that your love has just begun. This is possible by being proactive, assertive and innovative to make the loving life last longer.