With the increase in marital unhappiness and divorce rates even in most conservative societies all over the world, the importance of pre-marital guidance has become indispensible.
More than 70% of the divorces could be avoided if person takes benefit of Pre-Marriage Guidance.
It is very important that at least one person should take this guidance, although guiding both separately on Pre-Marriage issues would be ideal. However, we strongly suggest that Pre-Marriage guidance should not be taken with the ‘would be partner’ to avoid unacceptable compromises and acceptance.
In most cases when the marriage is arranged, the due-diligence is limited to social and financial status.
Rarely do we find person asking questions on compatibility, expectations and compromises each partner would have to do after marriage
In love marriage, the situation is even worse. Couples know each other seemingly so well that they bypass asking each other about basic expectations they have to face after marriage.
The factors which ruin marriage lie mostly in lack of even primary knowledge about each other and practically vague understanding or agreements or expectations before marriage.
Person may lightly mention about some serious expectations and partner may not take them so seriously before consenting for marriage.
Basic medical examinations would rule out medical, psychological or sexual abnormalities or shortcomings are overlooked.
Besides medical / physical examinations there are several issues which make or break the marriage
They include priorities, family planning, religious beliefs, customs and practices; beliefs, habits. Financial & Social values, role of in-laws, expectations from and towards each other. And most importantly, the issue of taking care of Parents of both the partners.
Learning problem-solving skills as well as communication skills especially while dealing with family matters helps in making life easier.
Person should also learn about own sexuality and that of spouse which makes good part of happier marriage.
Each one must be aware of his or her responsibilities in making the marriage successful without losing on life’s priorities and values.
Although satisfactory sexual relationship is considered to play only 15% role by happily married couples, more than 70% marriages are in trouble or break due to sexual dissatisfaction and incompatibility