Never insult your spouse even once in your married life.

Never insult friends or relatives of your spouse. If they are wrong, your spouse will realise it soon and take appropriate action even without your telling.  Love does wonders, if it is kept alive.

In married life one should never tell a lie or exaggerate. Breach of trust is breach of intimacy.

Don’t be judgemental. Rationalizing on facts before talking works wonder.

Put forward your point as “this is how I feel”. This attitude keeps a way for your spouse to give opinion. In discussions use words like “What do you feel about ......”, “What do you think in this case ......”, OR “In your opinion what we should do now ...........”

Use of words like ‘Feel’, ‘Think’, and ‘In your opinion’ helps in getting partner involved in your decisions.  And, in most cases your partner will agree to your decisions without much resistance. Involving partner helps in sharing responsibility and failures become bearable.

Blaming, taunting or passing sarcastic remarks indicate disowning your partner.

Habit of remaining calm in every situation even in situations outside marriage, helps a person to evaluate, before talking, what he or she is going to lose and whether it is worth losing.

We take all these efforts at our workplace and in public places, but take love of our family members for granted. Even when we see things going out of control our ego helps us in sticking to our stance.

A wise man was once insulted by one of his disciple in a fit of rage.

The wise man kept quiet as if nothing happened.

Next day morning the wise man told his disciple to collect all the dried leaves around in a basket and keep them near the tree in the middle of the village.

The Disciple did as per the instructions of his master.

In the evening master called his disciple and asked him to get the same leaves back.

The Disciple surprisingly asked, “How is it possible? The leaves must have all scattered everywhere or vanished by now?”

The smile on the face of wise man made his Disciple understand his mistake.

He realised, it is easy to insult anyone, but impossible to retrieve what you said; because irreparable damage has already taken place.