Identify,
If you are an understanding partner, find out the real reason why your wife is not in ‘sexual’ terms with you
Happy marriage depends on finding out where ‘I am responsible’ and ‘what is really troubling my wife’.
Most women whether working or not, are trapped in stressful and tiring daily household chores. Hence, expecting them to be ready for sex when you come home or whenever you want, is not fair.
Understanding her agony, being with her when she needs you most and appreciating her for little things she does for you, relieves her from feeling of ‘being a slave’.
Being tied up in office related matters, enjoying office moments more than home without making sincere efforts to relive your wife of her stressful routine, will definitely annoy her.
Grumbling about office problems and people, having parties at home without her consent, addictions, being in unpleasant mood all the time makes her life helpless and miserable.
More resentment comes up when husband refuses or avoids helping in household work.
Men cannot find excuse to refrain from household work, because most working women also do household work efficiently.
Accumulation of many such resentment leads to reduced interest in the husband and loss of desire for sex.
Understand,
Instead of accusing her for lack of interest in sex, understanding husband would try to find the real reason.
If your wife says “you are not the person I married” or “You are changed”, then she is probably right.
Think how important is to have a loving wife or what you are losing when you don’t have a loving wife.
Take her out for a ‘date’ or simply go out for a walk with her or sit in a garden for some relaxed time
Repair,
Admit your shortcomings, express regrets and make commitment to change. She will rebuild the trust when you actually fulfil the commitments.
Major problems like addictions, chronic work related issues; medical problems or affairs will require professional help. Do not delay.
Understanding and forgiving your partner for almost everything reflects in loving response.
Do at least one special thing a day, which will please her. It does not matter whether it is small or big, making a coffee or helping her in laundry. It may be just a sincere timely complement.
For long-term relationship more you appreciate your partner, more you get appreciated.
Try remembering Birthdays and anniversaries. They are important to women.
Make efforts to find out 'what makes her feel good’, or ask her.
Give your wife a hug to communicate ‘I need you’, ‘I love you’ and ‘I am there for you’.
Restoring her mood outside the bedroom will restore her mood inside the bedroom. Most women almost always forgive their loving and caring husband.
Make your wife feel it is worth spending life with you.